7 Distressing Signs You’re In Love With A CRAZY Maker
If you are questioning your sanity, there is a significant chance that the person you are with is making you think that. You are not crazy, and they just like to make you look like one.
You need to think about all the annoying people in your life, and it could be any relationship. Be it a friend co-worker, family member or your partner. If the relationship is close, there are chances that you will start to slowly lose your mind and be emotionally upset most of the time. You will start to question your sanity and why you have started behaving crazily. But what you need to realize is that it’s the narcissist that you are faced with that’s made you reach this point. And you have just hit your saturation point after putting up with so much mental abuse.
There is a reason why some people have the ability to make us go crazy and make us feel like it is our fault.
We are emotionally upset, mentally preoccupied and confused all the time. People who make us reach this point are categorized as ‘crazy makers.’ You are not even sure what your status is in a relationship with these people, and they will constantly keep you confused so you can’t hold them accountable. How they behave drives a person up the wall. But do not lose hope as there are ways to deal with such people.thechangepost.com / shutterstock.com
Crazy-makers pretend to be friendly people, but in reality, their intentions are very different. They hide what they want out of you by fooling you into believing that they are exactly the opposite of reality. They are incredibly charming and attractive, so when you meet them for the first time – you are hooked.thechangepost.com / shutterstock.com
But you need to be careful, as they can be exactly what you are looking for. They find out your weakness and strengths and shape their personality according to that. Once they are under your skin, they will start to use and abuse you. The abuse can be of any form or nature. And at a point where they show their true colors, you will not be able to make sense how such a person is acting this way. You will try to justify their actions in your head because it is tough to believe that you have been tricked or deceived.thechangepost.com / shutterstock.comthechangepost.com / shutterstock.com
These people are not just bad people, and they have a personality disorder. Due to this disorder, they feel entitled and want to have a life of fun and comfort. Anything that is not pleasing to their senses is unacceptable, and they find it very difficult to deal with it. They have absolutely nothing to do with taking responsibility, and they do not even want to account for how they behave and what they do. And people who do not make their wishes come true have to pay the price for it. They are in this equation only to use you and not give you anything in return but sh*t. How you feel about it, is none of their concern.thechangepost.com / shutterstock.com
You cannot have a person with such behavioral patterns and selflessness together. They are 110% selfish, and all they do is think about themselves and what will benefit them. They lack empathy and will not be fair to you in any accord. The only thing that is fair to them is that they get what they want, whenever they want it.thechangepost.com / shutterstock.com
They will not budge from what they think, and their opinions are carved in stone. They in any sense cannot be demanded or instructed to do anything but will expect you to fulfill theirs. You are a temporary stepping stone for them, and you hold no value.thechangepost.com / shutterstock.com
They mentally live in an alternate universe, where they cannot be wrong. And even if you provide logic to your argument, they will not register it. Even if they understand and register your logic, they will pretend like they do n’t get it. They will keep repeating what they are saying illogically, till you mentally give up and agree to them. They are self-obsessed and have a victimized mentality. They will never take responsibility for what they do as in their heads they are never at fault.thechangepost.com / shutterstock.com
Another infuriating habit they have is that they cannot tell a significant matter from an insignificant one. They are ready to discuss and dispute over any petty matter and will create the biggest drama on it.
But talking about irrelevant things that do not pertain to the issue in hand confuse the other person, this is their way of not taking responsibility for their actions. They will pick up anything to make it look like you are wrong and how they have no ounce of blame on them. While you get thrown off and start to justify the accusations, they throw on you.thechangepost.com / shutterstock.com
Narcissists are artists of tantrums. They will create a havoc if they are not pleased instantly and start to threaten you verbally if you do not do what they tell you to do. They will not listen to anything you say and they gas-light you till you lose your temper.thechangepost.com / shutterstock.com
And once you have lost your temper, they will make it look like you are crazy and they are innocent. If not, they will give up and make it look like you are the evil one. In both these circumstances, they are getting what they want – conclusion is in their favor.thechangepost.com / shutterstock.com
These manipulators will act in passive aggressive ways so when you end up giving a reaction to those, you are out-rightly wrong, and they are innocent. Their ways of being passive aggressive towards you will come in the form of being cold or distant, being forgetful, and being stubborn.thechangepost.com / shutterstock.com
They will even infuriate you with non-verbal communication like sighing or rolling their eyes. Their purpose is to make you so angry that in the end you look like the abusive one and they become the victims. This way they deflect their responsibility and are successful at it. To add on top of all these things, they will say things like ‘All I did was’ – because by this, they tell you how you give reactions that are out of proportion.thechangepost.com / shutterstock.com
Such abusers get ticked off immediately if you try to tell them what to do. They will keep delaying what you have said till you get angry and end up doing it yourself. Another reaction you can get is that they will straight up show anger for being told what to do. They see your wishes as demands, and they will not want to submit to those. From the beginning make it look like they are incapable of catering to you, so you don’t even ask them. And if you expect out of them, all you will get is a disappointment.thechangepost.com / shutterstock.com
Even if you try to make them answer why they couldn’t do what you asked of them, they will say sorry and not mean it. They will never really be sorry for what they do as they are doing it on purpose. What their biggest weapon is, is withdrawing emotional comfort. They initially get under your skin and make you dependent on them, once they achieve this – this is exactly what they use to control you.
At Tapoos, we will give you a few strategies to combat such people.thechangepost.com / shutterstock.com
These people confuse you on purpose, so when you are faced with their tactics just keep yourself calm and do not react. Rationalize the situation later and then get back to them.thechangepost.com / shutterstock.com
There best technique is to make you go crazy when no one is around, and when there are people around you, they will behave. They cannot have people see their real abusive side.thechangepost.com / shutterstock.com
If you see yourself losing it and not being able to keep your behavior normal, that is the biggest sign that you are in a toxic environment. Observe and notice who is behaving like this.thechangepost.com / shutterstock.com
Ask a third person if you cannot rationalize what is happening. A third person can see clearly as they are not emotionally invested with the manipulator.thechangepost.com / shutterstock.com
If they are fighting, don’t fight back. If they are dramatic, don’t give the satisfaction of getting gas-lighted. If will get bored of your reactions and move on to their next target.thechangepost.com / shutterstock.com
Anger is your weakness, and that’s exactly what they use against you. So start practicing ways of managing your anger.thechangepost.com / shutterstock.com
Remember they are making noise to get what they want. So ignore them when they do this.thechangepost.com / shutterstock.com
Manipulators are only trying to confuse you and deflect you off the topic. Don’t ever let them side track you into forgetting what the real matter at hand is.